onions wrote:Tyrant, why are you taking it so personally? If someone cuts me off while driving, I'll probably call that person an idiot. Would you take offense to that too, assuming you yourself are a driver of a vehicle on a road? Again, why take it so personally?
Well, you're example is different in that you are calling one specific person, that you know did what you are accusing them of, an idiot. As opposed to labeling say, everyone that drives a Honda, as an idiot when you see a crash but don't see what kind of cars were involved and instead just blindly blame people that drive Hondas because you don't like them. It's not the same and the second of those is likely to upset anyone who drives a Honda who happens to read it. The comment I responded to is an insult to people who are resellers. I happen to resell, therefore it was insulting to me. More importantly, along with being insulting it is assuming with no basis that every TRU that is out of these is out because they were bought by a reseller. Most of my post was either trying to illustrate how that is a ridiculous assumption and that anyone who waited until now was taking a risk anyway. As I said, this is similar to the casual insults towards Americans that seem to be allowed on Eurobricks. As an American, it upsets me. More to the point, I know that if I were to do the same using another country it wouldn't slide. That double standard is what really irritates me. Without getting horribly off track, I have to put up with that crap being an American white male all the time in real life and I think it's pretty sad that mentality of it being okay to insult certain groups (but apparently it's not okay to point out that someone is insulting them) is endorsed online, by an ambassador no less. I honestly had my fill of that with my miniature hobby where it got to the point that certain people were equated with people who committed certain felonies. it's an utterly insulting and toxic mentality that will always repulse a number of people and turn them away. I figured the ambassadors aren't supposed to actively endorse an obviously hostile mentality towards people that whether Don likes it or not are paying customers. It's your site though, so if that's the accepted ideal you are well within your rights to make it so. I just assumed that it wasn't.
As for Don's post, it's hard to not take that personally. I have an ambassador clearly telling me that it's okay to bash a whole group and it's pointless to try to stop it. I may be sorely mistaken, but I have serious doubts that TLG is cool with that mentality. He makes a statement saying that he agrees with some of my points and laughs at others, without saying which he is referring to. So, apparently some of my points are worth laughing at but not discussing? Most people find those types of comments offensive because they don't enjoy being casually dismissed. On top of that, without elaboritng it's a worthless comment that adds nothing and only serves to potentially upset the person on the other end (me, in this case). Telling me to "try to refrain from ranting every time I see someone express their displeasure about resellers" is a nice way of saying "shut up, we don't like your opinion." I could be way off on this, but I believe the last time I said anything was during the actual debate on this topic and that was several months ago. I don't believe that constitues "ranting every time I see it" so that's a blatantly false characterisation. People tend to take it personally when you say things like that to them because they don't like it when people talk down to them or portray them as something they aren't and then expecting them to not react.
That's why I took it personally. I thought I was in the right pointing out how absurd it is to blame every last problem on one group, especially in a situation where there's really no way to know if they are at fault and passing on the worthwhile advice of "if you want it, buy it. If you wait, you're taking a risk." Don felt the need to "correct" me without any serious attempt at debate and a statement that amounts to telling me to shut up and I tend to take that personally. I honestly think most people would.
I really do like the site. I wouldn't bother posting or visiting if I didn't. I thought the real debate on this topic a while ago was mostly civil. However, it seems to be looked down upon by some and I have no idea why other than the fact they have a different opinion and don't want any real debate while they are fine with one side insulting the other. Mods, ambassadors, etc are supposed to have a neutral position or at the very least not try to kill debate while supporting one side insulting the other. Again, it's your site so that's a call for you to make and maybe I am mistaken in my assumptions. If it's cool to insult people or make broad generalizations safe in the knowledge any attempt to correct it will be killed, let me know so I can more appropriately react down the road.